This is going to be a tough subject, and I've been praying that what I want to share comes across gentle and loving, because I certainly want it to.
When we first became Christians, within a few months I began to understand what submission meant. I knew what God intended it to be and the 'why' behind it. I was surrounded by wonderful examples of such. I also knew my past nature and I knew that I had quite a challenge before me to conform to God's word in this area.
I always thought that if I didn't get my own way I just had to get louder, cry, or pitch a fit until I did. I also observed, that there were other ways to control; silence treatments, withdrawing emotionally and physically, slamming doors, walking out, belittling, threatening, and even abuse.
So when I saw a book called "The Control Trap" by Barbara A. Sullivan, it perked my interest. It was a life transforming book. I like to underline important things in a book for quick reference if I ever have to go back through, and I underlined A LOT in this book!
Barbara Sullivan is very wise and knowledgable in this area. She did her homework. And she's very straight forward! She doesn't sugar coat much at all.
I think control is a huge source of contention involving women. With their husbands, children, neighbors, and friends. It's definitely a must read! Do I agree with everything? Nope, but the good far outweighs that!
One of my favorite quotes from my hubby's sermon's is "We should be conforming ourselves to be like Christ, not conforming others to be like us."
